When Not To Be So Gentlemanly

 Being a gentleman is important to him and those around him, which isn't a sometimes thing, but something consistent.  Handling situations with grace is important, because it maintains respect of all those involved.  Yet situations or circumstances come to pass that you can't handle things smoothly and you have to be candid and it's understandable you can act as if you appear mean or inconsiderate.  But the situation calls for such action. 

Lives are in danger.  There are two ways in which this applies.  The first is situational or circumstance.  Examples of this are a car accident, fire or natural disaster.  I know most of you are thinking, of course, yet you would be surprised how many times people react in a passive manner when dealing with this situation.  Just remember to stay as calm as possible, stay focused and if you need to communicate with someone, be as direct as possible.

Someone who is aggressive to you.  I’ll just say this, do whatever it takes to protect yourself and those you you need to protect such as your family and make them remember that messing with you was a mistake.  I’m not saying to break their arm, but if it happens, don’t sweat it.  

Racial Slurs or someone being generally inconsiderate:  Initially, when someone uses this language, you must take a look at your situation.  If they are with a large number of people, and you know you could be in danger, select your battles.  Yet if not, and it’s really offensive, then initially approach the person and express your issue.  If they continue, immediately become much more assertive and address the person again. It is really important to not attack them personally, but to talk about their actions.  You don't know if they are just out of character or that is their character, yet addressing what they are doing you get more mileage out of what you are saying to them.

 Don’t Just Be Ordinary, Be KlassiQue.