Mothers Day

For those who know love that is unconditional, know of a mothers love.  On this day we stop and take a moment to appreciate that love, care and kindness that she has given us all these years.  Although we shouldn’t just celebrate that only one day, we should take the time for one day for those who forgot to, a chance too, and to catch up. 

Some of our mothers are great right out the gate, and others struggle to live up to that standard every day. Some have a great relationship with her partner, while others go it alone.  Some have a great example from generations past, while others are the first in their generation to get it right and struggle everyday.  The art of being a mother isn’t about being perfect, it’s more about doing your best.  So this mothers day, if you can spend the time with her, or celebrate her memory, or appreciate your wife as the mother of your child, make sure she knows that you will take the time to show it.

Important Note: If you are married, and have your mother in your life, make sure you take the time to appreciate both of them, they way they would.  It doesn’t have to be the same day, or on mother’s day.  But your wife can and sometimes does get pushed aside.  She is important too. Remember, she is the mother of your children, and is committed to go on this life journey together.

Simple

Send flowers and bring to lunch.  Seems like an obvious idea doesn’t it? however, you would be surprised how many people don’t do this with their mothers, excluding those who live a far distance from her.  Taking the time to send your mother flowers is always a good thing, especially for mothers day.  

To make it more meaningful, make sure you do some research and find out what flowers she likes.  If they are something that can be grown, such as a poppie or an aster, bring her some in a nice arrangement, then make a small one that grows that she can put at her desk at work or home.  When the blooms come out in the next few weeks, its a nice way to continue the appreciation of her as she has to you all these years.  Just go to your local Orchard Supply Hardware, Lowe’s or Home Depot to get all that you need.

Sophisticated   

Dinner and a nice show.  A night out on the town can be just what your mother needs.  First, discover a place that has food that she would enjoy, but is new.  This would require the help of your friends, or just Yelp.  Reason being is that if you go to the same restaurant you have always been, it is a great experience, but finding a new place is just as good.  

To increase your chances of this going well do two things: First, try it out.  Nothing wrong with bringing your friends, family or significant other to help you decide if its the right place.  Second, bring something home and have her try it.  Its a subtle way for her to see how things taste and you can hear directly from her if she likes it or not.  

Try this about 1 month before you take her so that if things are well you can make reservations.  If things are not, you can find another restaurant.  

For the show, pick one of two types:  Something that is funny or something that is sentimental.  The reason for those two choices is that they carry the highest ability to create lasting memories.  I would opt for the comedy first, especially if she has been stressed out or needs a lift.

Classic

Bring her down memory lane. Ever hear or watch that show called, This is Your Life? or Inside the Actors Studio?  If you haven’t, watch it.  Great episodes to watch Muhammad Ali from This is Your Life, and Dave Chappelle from Inside the Actors Studio.  They are about a review the person’s life, little things that you discover about them you didn’t know before, and a nice stroll down memory lane.  What a great way to express your love for doing something similar.

One way to make this unique to you and her is to do that around your life with her.  You don’t need to pick 15+ things, just about 3 to 5 different things that you both would appreciate together.  Ideas such as places you both would go when you were young, of with your wife first started dating.  Music you used to listen to, events you used to do together.  Try to pick one from each time of your life or stage of when you were dating.  If you really do your homework you can contact some of her old friends and have them contact her.  This would be a great idea if you wanted to take a day trip, having lunch at the same park you two used to stroll in, going to a nice arts and crafts studio and re-make some of the things you made for her when you were younger or both enjoyed early in your relationship.  Perhaps catch lunch at one of the places you used to go, and have one of her old friends waiting for her.  There are so many things you can do, yet so many more memories you will create.

 

Muhammad Ali – This is Your Life http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0mP6oxBBcYU

Dave Chappelle – Inside the Actors Studio http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=84NjYRTHpfU