Day 13: Don’t Chase the Friend Who Isn’t Your Friend

We all know a lot of people. Some we work with, others we form friendships.  Yet on occasion we don’t receive the same reciprocation of friendship from them. We all know this person.  They happen to keep losing your cell phone number. The one who always declines your invitation.  The person you call often and seems not to call you back?  This is he friend who isn’t your friend.  It can get frustrating quickly for some, and bothersome. Why put yourself through that, especially if you have great people around you already.  

Try this; don’t reach out to them for 3-6 months.  If they contact you or reach out to you with just saying hello, then you have something, but if nothing, then they were not really your friend to begin with. 

Please remember our friends get busy and will explain that usually, just as you should, if you were busy during that period of time of why.  Busy and successful people are often occupied because they are focused on their goal.  Yet even a small text or a voicemail couldn’t hurt and takes minutes to do.  One thing to think about, are you that person to someone else?  If so make sure to reach out to them as soon as possible.

Remember some friendships, not to many, are that way were you hang every few months or so.  But there are those that either frustrate you, or you don’t feel the reciprocation with, its okay to let them go.  When they are ready to be your friend, then you will be waiting.  During that period of time, you can spend with those true friends that you have who don’t forget.  It may seem harsh or difficult, but once you know where you clearly stand, you can then move forward on to better days.